Category Archives: Happiness

The Rat Race

Every morning somewhere in a forest a deer wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed.

Every morning a lion wakes up. It knows that it must run faster than the slowest deer or it will starve to death.

It doesn’t matter whether we are a lion or a deer. When the sun comes up, we better be running!

That is the life of most people in city life, especially in big cities. We must run, run fast or we will be run over by someone else running faster.

But is there no difference between us and these wild animals in a remote forest? Continue reading

Time to Decide !!!!

Life & realization of a common young man of 2012…….!!!

Yesterday, while driving to work, the FM radio went off for few minutes.

I frustratingly thought, I should have kept an iPod in the car or MP3/Pen drive. Suddenly I realized, that I have not used my iPod in the last 6 months. And eventually started wondering about more things possessed, but unused:  Handy-cam not used in last 2 years, Digi-Cam in last 3 months, DVD player in last 1 month & many more.

Did I buy those gadgets merely out of an impulse, as I cud use them seldom in last few months?

If not, what went wrong & where?

When I look at myself or my friends, I can see it same everywhere.

We are never happy with what we have but are stressed and not happy for the things we don’t have.

You have a Santro but you want a Honda; You have a City but you want a Skoda.  Just after buying a new phone, we need another one; better & faster laptops, bigger TVs, luxurious cars, bigger house, more money…..

The list is endless. The point is, is it actually worth the cost attached to it? Did we possess them & could make it worth the possession? Do we ever think, if we actually need those things, that time, before we have an urge to want them, buy them?

I was forced to think about what actually I needed & what I didn’t. May be, I didn’t need or never needed this Handy- cam or the iPod or that DVD player or may be the time was not ripe for me to possess them at the point of buying.

When I see my dad back at home; he has an ordinary color TV & doesn’t need 40” Sony LCD wall mount; he has a cell phone worth Rs 2,500 & whenever I asked him to change the phone, he always replied: “It’s just a phone. I need this just for keeping & being in touch, to fulfill a basic communication need”.

Believe me, he is much happier in life than me or any of us with those limited resources & simple gadgets.

The very basic reason with him being happy with so little is that he doesn’t want things in life to make it luxurious or to add to the weight of his living. But he needs to possess only those things which are making his life easier, a bit better & of course, convenient.

There’s a very fine thread between the two, to WANT & to NEED.

I went into an introspection mode:
I am earning good, still I am not happy …. why ?
I have all the luxuries, still I am stressed …. why ?
I had a great weekend, still I am feeling tired …. why?

I met lot of people & thought over it, again and again. I still don’t know if I got the answers, but certainly figured out few things. I realized that one thing which is keeping me stressed up is the stay-connected syndrome.

I realized that, at home too, I am logged in on messengers, skypes’, checking mails, using social network sites and on top of that, the windows mobile is not letting me disconnected.

I realized that even though, I am spending far lesser money than what I earn, I am always worried about money and more money.

I realized that I am saving enough money I would ever need, Still I am stressed, worried & insecure about job, salary and future spending.

May be a few would refer this thinking or introspection as a non-progressive attitude sort, but I want my life back. Ultimately it’s a single life, a day gone is a day gone.

I believe, if I am not happy tonight, I’ll never be happy tomorrow morning.

I finally realized that meeting friends, spending quality time with your loved ones, spending time with yourself is the most important thing. If on Sunday you are alone & you don’t have anybody to talk with, then all these luxuries of life, all this money is wasted.

May be, cutting down on your requirements & wants, re-calculating your future goal in the light of today’s happiness is a worthwhile thing to do.

May be, selling off your Santro & buying a Honda City on EMIs’ is not a good idea.

I believe putting your happiness ahead of money is the choice we need to make.
I think, a lot can be said and done but what we need the most is a thorough re-evaluation of the value of happiness and time we are giving to our life and people associated with it.

Change does not Happen when Circumstances Improves,
Change happens when YOU Decide to Improve YOUR circumstances!

P.S: The argument depicted doesn’t mean to go against the hard work & hard earned money. Money is of course important & highly relevant to exist & survive in today’s world. But in the process of making it happen, let us not forget the time we have in hand & the value attached to it.